How we should talk to our children

24 May

For most adults, talking to kids can be daunting. And not just in the “watch what you say” way but in the “they won’t say anything to me” way. Luckily, science has stepped in to find the best methods for getting actual responses from kids.

There are a lot of contradictory bits of “common sense” out there about kids. They lie all the time. They’re innocents who don’t know how to lie. They’re only saying something because their parents told them to say it. They always say exactly what their parents don’t want them to say. They say the darndest things. They say nothing.

Really, what the research says is that all of these are true. What kind of response you get is dependent on how you act, though, not on the kid.

Child Interviewing

The vast majority of information on speaking with children comes from research into the best practices for forensic interviews. Forensic interviews are interviews where the goal is to get a child to tell you, truthfully, everything he or she saw or happened to them. Most of the time, it’s done when a child is the witness to a crime or the victim of one. For obvious reasons, these interviewers are always looking to minimize the chance that their questions will bias the answers children give, and are always trying to get children to do as much of the talking as possible.

Read more: http://io9.gizmodo.com/scientific-studies-explain-the-best-ways-to-talk-to-chi-582531307